I think I just pissed a friend of mine off. She was discussing (via text message) her cousin who is pregnant. Now, this girl (the cousin) got pregnant at the age of 17, almost 18. She kept the baby. I think the father was a deadbeat, but I couldn’t swear to it, it’s been several years now. Anyway, I remarked surprise at the girl’s pregnancy. I asked if it was at least the same guy. My friend replied that it was the girl’s fiance – different guy, I guess. Anyway, my friend then proceeded to tell me that the girl has had four abortions. What. The. Fuck. Seriously? Four of them? After the first one or two the girl couldn’t figure out what caused it? Could she not drive her sorry self down to the local clinic to get on birth control?? Last time I checked, birth control at Planned Parenthood is a helluva lot cheaper than an abortion.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m actually pro-choice. I’m for a woman’s right to choose what goes on with her body. That doesn’t mean I agree with what she does with it, however. Yes, I’ll fight for your right to have an abortion, but I’ll be damned if I’ll give you kudos for doing so.
Anyway, I asked if the girl was keeping this baby. My friend replied that “I said it was her fiancee” as though, somehow, that might make a difference for a girl who has had four abortions. I couldn’t help it. I fired back that if she killed four babies, why would I just automatically assume she wanted another. Mean, maybe. And, I don’t think I made my friend very happy. I can’t help it, I’m a mouthy broad. I say what I think. Sometimes it gets me in trouble.
Hopefully after a few days my friend will talk to me again. The fact that my statement offended her though, means that she must think it’s okay. The fact that she thinks it’s okay… I’m not sure if I care if she does talk to me again.