I’m really quite bummed today. The birthday party for Elias and Noah is tomorrow. On my side of the family, only my parents are scheduled to show up. Not either of my sisters, nor their families.

It wouldn’t be such a big deal if it were a one-time thing, but it’s not. Pretty much every birthday party we’ve had after Elias turned one has lacked some part of my family. I’m starting to wonder if I need to send out those “Save the Date” cards a year beforehand. Yeah, I joke, but I’m really really bummed out and feeling hurt about this. I just don’t get it. I really feel as though my kids just don’t matter to my family. I guess I need to get used to it because it seems to be the way things are and I can’t force anyone to show up or care.

4 thoughts on “Family”

  1. Hope the party was a blast. It's tough to feel that you (and your kids) aren't important to your family. Especially, since we are led to believe that family is supposed to be there for us when no one else is! It can be really tough to get past that ideal. Try to remember that it is likely more of a reflection of them than it is on you. You might just have to accept that this was the hand you were dealt (as much as it stinks). You can't change them, so you need to change your expectations for them. Also, know that unfortunately, you are not alone in having family that disappoints. You just need to focus on your family and make sure the cycle stops with you.

  2. Don't feel like this only happens to you…….I certainly know the feeling of being let down.All you can do is make the day as special as possible,no matter who is (or is not) there!And try not to hold a grudge, pick your battles! Just be there for others and live by example!Karen Dorris

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