Breastfeeding as a turn-off

I’m sure many of you have read, or at least heard about, the NY Times editorial “Breastfeeding and Sex: Is Latching On a Turn-Off?” by James Braly. In the piece Mr. Braly regales us with how disgusted he is by the fact that his wife is still breastfeeding their five year old son. And he explains it so in such eloquent terms:

By the time they strolled back to me and my already-nursed toddler son on the picnic blanket, I had lost my appetite — and not just for the smoked salmon.


… I was dry-heaving — and bile is not an aphrodisiac.

 Yeah, he’s a real charmer, that one.

Mr. Braly also likens extended breast-feeding to helicopter parenting, thereby justifying himself by pointing us to an article that suggests helicopter mothers “drive” their partners to cheat.

My personal favorite is the following line:

I know, most women think their breasts are theirs….

Because, yanno, apparently, they are not. Apparently they belong to the “man” in the relationship, rather to the woman, of whose body they rest.

Admittedly, I could not  continue to breastfeed a child to the age of five or beyond. That’s just me though. I know a lot of women do it and I’m not judging them. And, truly, if you have such an issue with your partner nursing a child for an extended period of time, mayhaps the responsibility lies on you to say something to her – in a gentle, respectful way – about your issues, rather than laying it all out via a newspaper editorial.

Although, speaking as a woman, I honestly think that if Mr. Braly found a better attitude toward his wife and her breasts, he might find himself getting lucky with her a lot more often.

2 thoughts on “Breastfeeding as a turn-off”

  1. Hmm… I can’t see myself breastfeeding my child at age 5. But it’s more likely than putting up with a husband like THAT. I’d divorce that jerk 5 seconds after reading that article.

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